Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Thursday, 9 July 2015

It's Silence Day at Meherazad...






Meherazad - as it looks today, but photographed by Robin Oppenheimer yesterday
10th July  ..Silence Day all over the world for Baba lovers.  90 years ago on this day Meher Baba started His Silence which is still reverberating in our hearts and lives today.  He speaks in His Silence, and we all have heard Him, or else why would we be observing this day?

Meherazad, Baba's home, goes from mad, mad rush of pilgrims coming to visit His home on 9th July to becoming a place of silence in the space of a few hours.  I woke up this morning remembering that I didn't talk to Baba aloud.  Went and greeted Meherwan Jessawala by joining my hands to him, then got everything ready for his breakfast and went outside to do my turning clockwise exercise and what happens?  Our dearest Gabby, Meherazad's 3-legged dog, does what he tries to do every day, spin with me!!  Without thinking I said "Good morning Gabby!" then had to smack my hand over my mouth for having broken my silence. And it was only 4.55 AM! 

Well!!  Perhaps that's it, and the rest of my Silence Day will pass, well, in silence...it is easy to be silent here.  Since the workers keep silent too (voluntarily) there is none of the usual shouting of instructions, petty squabbles, laughter and joking.  Instead you can hear the birds singing, and boy do they sing loudly!  The coppersmith, the Indian cuckoo, the Indian robin, parrots, crows ...all chorusing away.  Singing His Name, no doubt.  The plants rustle quietly, there is a loud creaking noise as the tin shade next to Eruch's cabin sways in the breeze and someone has just turned the outside tap on full, even though we are in the middle of a severe water shortage...

I went for a walk this morning, around the foot of Seclusion Hill and around the new forest road back to Meherazad.  One of our dogs came with me.  Cissy was so good, she came each time I clapped.  Much better behaviour than when I am talking and call out to her to come!  Seclusion Hill looked beautiful and I wished I could climb it, but I can't right now because my damaged knees can't cope with the climb back down... maybe soon, yes Baba?


Yesterday we had a few hundred pilgrims come and take Darshan at Meherazad, they came from all over India to be with their Beloved at His Samadhi for this most important day of the Avataric advent. 

Pilgrims and volunteers outside Baba's room at Meherazad 9 July 2015. Photo Robin Oppenheimer.
Volunteers taking Darshan at the very end of the pilgrims' visit, 9 July 2015.  Photo by Robin Oppenheimer.
They came and cued for a surprisingly short time, visited with Baba in His bedroom and in Mandali Hall and then came around to greet Meherwan Jessawala who sat in his usual place on the men's side verandah and greeted each with joined hands.  Then they went off to absorb the beauty of the place, many of them lying prone on the benches in the garden and looking up at the leafy tree cover and, beyond that, the blue sky.  It was a happy day, and we Meherazad residents were so grateful to be part of this love feast.  Today the pilgrims are exchanging real things at His feet in Meherabad.. after all, Baba Himself said, "Things that are real are given and received in silence."  Avatar Meher Baba Ki Jai!!!
 

Sunday, 18 August 2013

Good, Evil and God-Realization.

Today someone sent me this excerpt from Lord Meher, thinking I'd find it useful.  

"As good is necessary, likewise bad is also necessary – just as positive and negative. Both are essential for action and evolution. If only good were to prevail everywhere, life would end! Both good or bad done to the extreme would lead to Self-Realization; for instance, absolute evil with no trace of good, or absolute good with no 
trace of bad at all – both are equally conducive to the attainment of the goal of Self-Realization.
If this is so, naturally it can be asked, "Why is good preferable to bad?" Both good and bad are zero, being nonexistent for those who are God-Realized. Both are terms of duality. But the Masters and Avatars give preference and advocate good over bad. This is only because good is really, spiritually speaking, easy for reaching the goal; though apparently, materially speaking, it is the reverse.
For example, bad is apparently easy – difficult, really! But the underlying principle in life being spiritual progress – true existence – comes against the material progress which is only apparent and not real. Thus, the Masters advocate good, being truly easy for mankind, as the better course to follow for true progress in the march of life to the goal of Realization.
Another reason for preferring and advocating good is that in evil, although apparently easy, while thinking about and actually committing a bad act, there is always a sort of torture to the mind, which inevitably happens after committing the act. For instance, illicit sex or murder. Whereas in good, which though apparently difficult, there is nothing of the kind – no torture to the mind. On the contrary, there is a constant feeling of a sort of happiness not only in thinking but also in doing a good act, although it is always more difficult apparently to do good rather than bad.
Besides, pursuing the course of doing bad to the extreme would not succeed or endure until the end. A man's body however bold, indifferent, healthy and robust would not be able to withstand prolonged indulgence in bad vices – such as lust, drinking liquor, or violence to the extreme."
Meher Baba

I've always liked this discourse, and so I wrote the following answer back to him, and am sharing because it is based on Eruch's and Meherwan's take on the subject, and I think you will all find it interesting. 

Yes, I have also read this one and posted it on FB somewhere, I think.  Absolute good, absolute evil or both good and evil sanskaras in perfect balance - Realization is the result. However, as Eruch often said, why worry about getting God-realization?  You have no choice, you will get it one day..whether you want it or not!  Knowing this is so, I ignore spiritual progress or lack thereof in myself, and dedicatedly try ignoring it in others who want to talk about it at length.  To the extent of sometimes avoiding that person, just to avoid this discussion!  As you can tell, my good/evil ratio is probably not weighted to the "G" word, rather to the "E"!   
My current work in progress is to accept whatever I'm given to do and do it wholeheartedly. Not grumble or try to get out of doing it (my first reaction to any work I've not specifically chosen myself) but just say "Yes"...so hard for me to do this, but slowly getting easier.  V-E-R-Y  S-L-O-W-L-Y.  I am working on this because both my uncles - Eruch and Meherwan - stress on obedience.  If I have decided to live at Meherazad and 'serve' here (I am not sure I AM serving, hence the quotation marks) then I have to accept that all the work I'm given is given by Baba Himself, for whatever reason. I can't, therefore, very well say, "No, thank You but no."  I do what I'm asked and look for ways to help bring more efficiency in how things work.  This is a very important trait of lazy individuals, they are always looking for efficient ways to do what they have to, because it saves time and effort.  Best and most efficient of all ways is to delegate, always!  But I am resisting delegation in favour of doing the stuff myself.  Baba, I hope You notice and don't keep this up for too long, please remember that I'd asked specifically for a vacation incarnation!
Seriously though, Meherwan says often and I totally agree that intellectual debates and constant analysis does not really bring me closer to Baba.  In fact, I find myself getting irritable and ornery if I engage in these pursuits for too long. And Baba does not want us to do this game playing.  As He told the Andhra group once, leave your mind closed and open your hearts when you come into My Presence.  That way you will receive the Love I am giving you in full measure. (Not exact quote but you get the meaning?)  Spiritual training is all very well, in small doses. Take it one bite at a time and you may be able to finish the whole portion in this lifetime.  If not, there will be many more to learn the lessons we need to learn and do the things we need to do. Answers come in their time, if you have questions.  If you don't they still come, just like God-Realization, eventually.  And when that has happened to me in the past, it has always come as "Oh, I knew that!" because of course, we know it all, we just don't know that we know!  
There are many of us who are starting to get it..you need do nothing at all, except what is put in front of you.  If Baba puts joy and health in front of you, then enjoy and share it with others.  Savor it and remember to thank Him for all He gives.  If Baba puts pain and suffering your way, then so be it.  Take it and swallow, one small sip at a time.  If you need someone to come hold the cup while you drink, call your friends and loved ones, they want to help.  They do want to be there for you, but it can be hard to say "Can I be there?"  Easier if you ask and then they can come and be with you without feeling like they are imposing. Remember, they can't read your mind! And of course, if they don't then you've given them the option to say "No", haven't you?  Baba has made us part of His family for a reason, apart from loving Him. It is so that we can each of us be there for each of the others if we choose to take this on.  I can't help everyone, but whoever gives me a shout, I always respond and do my best in whatever way I can.  Sometimes I say no, and don't feel bad about it, because better to do nothing than to do everything with a feeling of resentment and reluctance.  And even in your pain and suffering, thank Him for all He gives. He only gives you what you need and in the exact measure you need it. 
Jai Meher Baba!  

Sunday, 1 July 2012

The Lord Gives And The Lord Takes Away...

As my regular readers know, I spend most of my time in Meherazad looking after my aunt Manu, and helping my uncle Meherwan in his constant care of her.  Right now I am also working with him on the first edit of his memoirs.  As I read the memoirs I realise how much the Lord has given them.  They were His from the very start of their lives and He gave them so freely of His love and service and obedience and pleasure.  They have played games with Him, they have walked with Him, talked with Him and He has very clearly told them over and over that they are His own! 

He also took away everything that would matter to us living in the material world.  Their beautiful home, their financial security, their 'free' will, family ties - all were taken away and over and over they were taught to put Baba and His pleasure before anything else.  They were made to wait 47 years for a call that He had promised He would give (calling them to live with Him in Meherazad) in 15 days, 20 at the most!!  And when that call came, He had already dropped the body.  But ever obedient, they went. 

Talking to Meherwan as we walked this morning, I asked him what was the most important lesson that he had learned in his life with Baba.  "Constant humiliation," he said.  Baba puts His close ones through humiliation over and over and over again.  He said that Eruch once told him that life with Baba was just one humiliation after another.  Meherwan said that when he first came to live in Meherazad with Gaimummy and Manu they had to endure a lot of humiliation.  They had left a large and happy home in Poona and come to live in two cramped rooms over on the men's side.  There were already established 'authority figures' who resented these 'new-comers' and took every chance to make them feel small.  But they held on to the strong conviction that they had been called by Baba and no one else.  They were only going to focus on Him.  As always.  He told me that I should be prepared to be humiliated and reviled in Baba's work.  If my ego could not take this then I would miss a chance not given to many. 

Listening to him I was reminded of the prayer said at the graveside by Christian priests - "The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away.  Blessed is the Name of the Lord."  Truly, these words have been made living fact by the Jessawalas, every single one of them.  Jai Baba!

Monday, 8 November 2010

About love.

"Don't be angry if someone does not love you the way you want, remember that they are loving you the best way they can."

I read these lines in a book recently, and they made a profound impression on me. I am very often guilty of being upset and angry because someone has been offhand, curt, unavailable or just plain elusive. In my heart I equate it with a lack of love and caring. These feelings have been the cause of a lot of hurt and pain. Reading these lines it was as if a light had come on inside me, and I realized that it is true. People love you the best way they can. Not everyone has the capacity to love you a lot, someone may have been given a very little amount of love for you. And that is the best they can do. You know what I mean, you have very little love for some of the people you know, right??

When you examine any of your relationships with this statement as the benchmark, things improve drastically. You begin to see the limitations and the stresses others face, and you begin to make allowances for them, and slowly release your anger, resentment, hurt, and grief. Just think, how pale a shadow is our love for Baba in comparison to His love for us? If He got angry because we don't love Him the way He wants us to, creation would cease to exist!!! But He is happy with our love, because He knows we are loving Him the best way we can. Big hugs in Him, Jai Baba!

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